I do! You just purchase the listing with the garment you want and in a Note to Seller tell me that you’d like the Die/ Dior print on there instead!
(continuation) … I don’t blame him, but it bothers me to know that he doesn’t think I look that good anymore, like I used to. My whole life I had boys telling me I was to skinny, I was not curvy enough; or that I was too flacid, I should definitely do some exercise. I thought I was looking ok, and was in phase I finally got comfortable with my body image, but now my self esteem is super low again. I just feel like I’ll never get not to hate my body.
Wow, I am sorry that your boyfriend has no fucking tact and isn’t being very cool about it. I’m putting myself in his position and I can’t say he’s a dick for saying it, because I’ve been with people who sort of let themselves go a bit or just weren’t taking care of themselves and it was a turn off for me, it happens. No one wants to make the other person feel better and you do not deserve to feel bad about your changing body.
You just said you’re happy with your fuller curves— so if you didn’t have this guy would you not even give a fuck about it? If you are healthy, active and not gaining weight due to unhealthy habits with eating or drinking or whatever thing that makes people gain weight when they aren’t handling their problems well…. then you have no reason to try and change it because guess what? Bodies change all the time. I think it is fucking bullshit how women are damned no matter what- you’re too skinny, you’re too thick, your too fake, you’re not good enough naturally, you’re OH MY GOD SHUT THE FUCK UP, SOCIETY. GIVE ME A FUCKING BREAK, I’M A HUMAN STUMBLING THROUGH THIS COMPLEX, DIFFICULT, UNPREDICTABLE LIFE LIKE THE REST OF US SO EXCUSE ME IF WHAT MY OUTER SHELL LOOKS LIKE ISNT PERFECT TO ALL OF YOU.
Fuck! I get so heated and I’m sorry that I work out my obvious issues with this through my messages but fuck it we’re helping eachother out here. I want to tell you “never let a dude make you feel self conscious” but it’s never that easy, for any of us. But you should honestly evaluate whether that relationship is doing more harm than good to your overall psyche- sometimes shit happens and people change and we see that we are actually becoming more and more self-hindering because of the insecurity that our significant other places on us, either inadvertently or blatantly. No matter how sweet they are in general, if you just are not feeling good about yourself when you’re with them and things are not changing from that, it’s a sign that you are not meant to be together. And that’s totally fine.
To me there is no “normal”, there shouldn’t be set “rules” for this type of thing. To me, the only “rule” is doing what YOU feel comfortable with and will not feel bad about or regret after the fact. However, I will say that it is generally a better idea to hold off on the physical stuff with someone you may see a real future with, only because it can cloud up your focus on getting to know eachother as people. My last 2 relationships started off with some distance between us so we fell for eachother without any physical connection for at least a couple weeks, and then when we met I gaged what I felt comfortable with doing based on our chemistry, what I wanted, what I still wanted at the end of the night… I don’t ever do things just because the guy has blue balls. I’m sorry, but a good man wouldn’t even WANT or feel okay with his girl doing something with him just because she felt bad if she didn’t. Just be open with him, don’t worry about rules or weird things that you think you shouldn’t say or bring up regarding this…being open with that person is essential for a relationship to be any good at all.
But I mean if you’re just hooking up, which I admittedly know nothing about because my brain doesn’t work that way (but it’s okay if yours does!), then you might only need to focus on your personal comfort level. If you want to do it and you feel ready to go further, then by all means, do it on the first date. Maybe the second date just because I’m a little old fashioned and think that it’s really the best thing to keep a guy entranced. Maybe. Go with your gut, trust your first thought, be safe!
….heeled platform leather boots.
No but also I like to wear my jellies and platform sandals with ankle straps! And floral keds for when I’m feeling like I need a break from myself.
I just started going to LA last month because the dude I’m dating conveniently lives there (jesus take the wheel, long distance suxxx) but I actually really love it there! The weather is almost always perfect, people are actually super chill contrary to my previous prejudice that everyone there was horrible and alienating, and there are wonderful places to see there (art galleries and shops are almost on NYC’s level!)
The only thing that is really crappy is the driving and the traffic. I don’t drive, I grew up in NYC (wooooo public transit) so if I ever moved out there I’d have to get my license and a car, and that’s just shit I don’t see happening for at least another year. But I totally wouldn’t be opposed to living there one day. I love that you have a city aspect but just a minute away you’re in the suburbs, it’s so cozy and convenient and beautiful.
So yeah, LA you’re O-KAY.
I hate bangs on wigs too! I actually bought that in a wig shop in NYC’s hair district, most wig/ beauty supply shops will have their wigs in every color, white being pretty standard actually.
You smell like fish? Tell him that you don’t give a fuck and fish is delicious and he’s just mad because you’re part mermaid and he’s not. Tell him you’re gonna find a sexy bearded merman with a penis pocket and nevermind I’m getting ahead of myself DON’T do that, but do the first part.
Delete him and then close your computer and go for a walk listening to music or call up someone you like and talk about it or talk about other stuff. You don’t need to be facebook friends, it’s okay if you’re having a tough time with something so seemingly simple, it’s like pulling off a bandaid. Hurts for a second then who gives a rat’s ass cheek.
It’s normal to be shaken up, confused, and distracted after a breakup. But I always say this: if you did it, you made the decision after a LOT of thought I’m sure, a lot of weighing the pros and cons and considering for a while. You don’t break up with someone because of just one thing, you work through shit usually but to make the choice to break up you have to have had things weighing on your mind, uncertainties, just things that made you feel that it is best to, despite the good times, be apart. He sounds kind of like a dick too, you’ll move on.
I believe I said that about Cara Delevigne, but it was pretty flippant and judgey. It’s not to say I don’t love models! I have many great girlfriends who are professional models that are deep and artistic and fun! But most of them ARE party animals, it’s not bad or good it’s just how it is. You go to a lot of events, you’re paid to be there, people offer you stuff to get the party going… it’s understandable. It’s just not my lifestyle.
Thanks! Well for what it’s worth, that was my first cosplay ever! Given I was in my 4th year at Parsons for fashion design, but cosplay is just something that creative people are good at regardless of their tactile costuming experience because it’s really just problem solving and experimentation, there are no rules! Some things you can make and some things you should buy if you are not yet skilled enough to make it yourself (i.e. weapons, belts, gloves, footwear) but the good thing is cosplay is often buying simple templates and just customizing them, so it’s really not that intimidating and the more excited you are by it the better it will look! Give yourself plenty of time and just have fun, that’s why we do it :)